Friday, January 1, 2010

To Resolve or Not to Resolve

I find New Years resolutions so heavy. It's like setting oneself up with a lot of "shoulds". Should is just not a fun word. It has built in to it, that one really doesn't want to do the the thing in the first place. Not a great way to start any undertaking.

I should pay my bills on time. Of course I should, but I often don't. Saying should never helped me pay my bills. They get paid because I have to pay them. So rather than setting myself up to feel like a failure and weighed down, I'm forgoing resolutions this year. The "have tos" among the "shoulds" will end up getting done.

But it is the start of a new year and a new decade, so something seems in order to get things headed in the right direction. So in place of resolutions, I have decided to make a list of the things I want to do this year. A list of things I like to do, want to try, am curious about or feel will make our lives more fun, more interesting, richer and worth remembering in ten years years.

Here's a few of the things I've come up with:

Read bedtime stories with my daughter
Plant 100 sunflower seeds and see what happens
Learn to make Vegetable Green Curry
Go swimming as often as possible
Finish building the Fairy Circle wall I started
Teach my daughter her numbers and letters
Read at least one good book, maybe a classic I've never tackled (No small feat these days)
Start a full blown vegetable garden with carrots and lettuces
Get a great photo of my daughter and me together (Another not so easy feat)
Play more music
Put on a little lipstick each day so I feel a little more glamorous
Talk to and see my friends more often
Draw with my daughter, draw by myself, draw, draw, draw!


ep said...

I have a similar (anti-resolution) post for tomorrow! Great minds think alike. I love your list. I don't think anyone needs more pressure in their lives. But keeping a list of things that you would like to do, or are looking forward to - sounds like a terrific idea. And very inspiring.

jane said...

Well thanks for including me in the great minds category and now I'm looking forward to your post!